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MorganEugeneTackett View Profile History	I have been thinking lately Posted : 24 Nov, 2025 01:50 PM As I wait and pray and seek my other half, I realize that it doesn’t matter how much you try, how much you change yourself, outwardly and inwardly, how much faith you have, if it’s not part of God’s will, it’s not meant to be. And sadly, as much as I hate to admit it, it’s not meant to be for me. I have the desire in my heart for a Christ centered relationship, but having the desire and it being God’s will is two different things. I do believe sometimes God gives us certain desires, but He never gives us those things for one reason or another. What that reason is, I don’t understand, but God’s ways are not ways. His ways are beyond finding out. It hurts to admit this, but I’m thankful that I have a Savior to take it all to. He might not completely fix my broken heart, but He will dry the lonely tears. Because He’s a God that cares about His children, and He will love us even if no one else will. Post Reply
WalkNTalk View Profile History	I have been thinking lately Posted : 24 Nov, 2025 03:38 PM Paul said, "Who is weak, and I do not feel weak? Who is led into sin, and I do not inwardly burn?" (2 Corinthians 11:29) Man is born to trouble as sure as sparks fly upwards. (Job 5:7) Take hold of the prize! (Philippians 3:14) Post Reply
justTravis View Profile History	I have been thinking lately Posted : 24 Nov, 2025 05:44 PM Its good to hear from you Mr. Tackett! I might be incorect in my assessment, but according to my observation attraction largely depends on the eyes of the female. There are some major things that a guy can do to make himself appear to be a sweeter deal, but have you seen the 'low quality' that some guys are. Something inside the girl says "Hey I like that guy". And when the guy learns that he is a hot commidty in the eyes of the girl then he proceeds to show the girl what a great guy he is. At this time I want to share "three M". 3m is a plan for guys. 3m is like a blueprint on how to organize your life. The first question that a man should answer is 1m: figure out "who is your master". next figure out what is my mission" Say you feel that you mission is to be a great carpenter, then you had better figure out how to be the best carpenter that you can be, like be able to build a cathrederal out of a stack of 2x4's. One day a girl will notice what you are doing and she might be intrested in helping you do paper work for your construction business. Over time the girl will help you answer the third M. The third M is who is my mate. Post Reply
WalkNTalk View Profile History	I have been thinking lately Posted : 24 Nov, 2025 06:25 PM mmm Post Reply
MorganEugeneTackett View Profile History	I have been thinking lately Posted : 25 Nov, 2025 07:58 AM I don’t think attraction has anything to do with it. As I said, it’s all a matter of whether God wills it or not. All things happen because He makes it happen. And I could be wrong about it not being His will for me, but I don’t believe that I am. The main thing is to not attract someone, but to draw nigh to God and He will draw nigh to us. Post Reply

nomoreusernamesleft View Profile History	I have been thinking lately Posted : 25 Nov, 2025 08:26 AM Morgan, why then would God give us counsel in our decisions whether to marry or not to marry? We are given choices to make, yet the Lord directs the outcome of our voices. He that is not married, cares for the things of the Lord how he may please the Lord. He that is married cares for the things of this world, how he may please his wife. If it is in your heart to be married, then find a woman that is suitable for you. It's not likely that you'll find a quality woman on any online dating sites because they're outnumbered 4-1 and are bombarded with SIMPle men that feed their virtual ego. There may be some, but you're better off meeting someone in a marketplace, in real life. If that's what you want to do Post Reply
WalkNTalk View Profile History	I have been thinking lately Posted : 25 Nov, 2025 08:53 AM Nigh! But I got to agree with that, nomoreusernamesleft. More are the foolish men on these sites than the foolish women. The men do outnumber the women more than 4 to 1. God is not telling you what to do in this matter. You do have some say. Paul chose the single, celibate life, and to devote himself more fully to THE LORD. You can do that too if you want. It seems better than wasting one's life for a woman that never appears. WHO KNOWS? Maybe while you are serving THE LORD, the woman will appear who proposes marriage to you, and you will happily earthly after. THE LORD is a better pursuit. STORE those treasures in heaven. But maybe a woman will find you and like you and want you and she will ask you ot marry her. Then maybe you'll be happy for a little while. Maybe she'll be good to you, and you will like life for the rest of your life. Not too many Proverbs 31:12 women. Maybe you will be a lucky guy and THE LORD favor you with a splendid woman. Post Reply
MorganEugeneTackett View Profile History	I have been thinking lately Posted : 25 Nov, 2025 06:30 PM I’m not saying we don’t have choices, but things still will only happen if God allows it. That is why we must completely surrender to Him and to His will. Post Reply
WalkNTalk View Profile History	I have been thinking lately Posted : 25 Nov, 2025 09:05 PM “All things are lawful unto me,” but all things are not expedient. “All things are lawful for me,” but I will not be brought under the power of any. (1 Corinthians 6:12 and 1 Corinthians 10:23) Everything is permissible for me, but not all things are beneficial. We likely error to marry. Less of an error to store our treasures in heaven. Post Reply